Marc Dubreuil Counselling Epsom, Surrey

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What is counselling ?

Counselling falls under the umbrella term ‘talking therapies’ and allows people to discuss their problems and any difficult feelings they encounter in a secure and understanding environment. The term can mean different things to different people, but in general it is a process people seek when they want to change something in their lives or simply explore their thoughts and feelings in more depth.

A counsellor is not there to sit you down and tell you what to do - instead I will encourage you to talk about what's bothering you in order to uncover any root causes and identify your specific ways of thinking. We will then look together at creating a plan of action to either help you reconcile with your issues and difficulties or to help you find ways of coping.

As a therapist my main aim will be to establish a therapeutic relationship with you that is characterised on my part by non-judgmental acceptance, my ability to really understand you from your own point of view, and to be real with you. This safe environment should allow you to talk about any issues that are important to you.
I have explored many sensitive issues with my clients, such as their experience of being abused as children, bereavement, depression, anxiety, anger management, addiction to pornography, relationship issues, sexuality, faith issues, spirituality, etc. Many clients have told me that as a result of being able to explore an issue in a safe and confidential and non-judgmental environment they have felt better about themselves and made constructive changes to their lives, over the course of the therapy.

Counselling is the process that occurs when you and I counsellor set aside a specific time in order to explore difficulties in life which may include stressful or emotionally difficult event in your life. Counselling is a relationship of trust so confidentiality between you and myself is paramount to successful counselling. As our relationship grow the counselling process will start to form.
During the counselling process I will work with you to see things more clearly, to focus and explore your feelings, experience or behaviour with the goal of facilitating positive change.

Men and Counselling

It is a well known fact that men are often reluctant to go to counselling or therapy.
Many men leave getting help for their problems right up until the last minute. Too often, boys and men would prefer not to admit they have a problem that might benefit from talking through with someone else. In an attempt to mask feelings of inadequacy, boys and men often turn to denial, anger or even substance misuse or addictions like pornography. If they are lucky they go into Alcoholics Anonymous, Gamblers Anonymous, Relate, or go into counselling. Others aren’t so lucky and end up with broken marriages, relationships ending, or homelessness, or worst case scenario committing suicide.

Statistics from the counselling and psychotherapy profession report that men make up anywhere from less than 20 per cent (BACP) to around one-third of those seeking help through counselling and psychotherapy, and yet it appears that men suffer distress as often and in similar ways to women. In fact, where suicide is concerned, there is a worldwide phenomenon of higher suicide rates among men of all age groups. Although for a long while in the UK male suicide rates had been falling, the most recent figures from the Office for National Statistics report that in 2015 male suicide rates were the highest they have been since 2001. Indeed, at no point during the past 34 years have the rates of suicide been higher for women than they have been for men.

What can you expect during our sessions?

  • In counselling you will find a space in which you can talk, listen and express yourself, without being judged.
  • During our counselling sessions, I will not tell you what you should do.
  • Therapy is a non-judgemental process.
  • During our counselling sessions, I will not tell you how you should be feeling.
  • Therapy allows you to focus on your troubling issues and emotions.
  • Counselling is a listening-and-talking method of working, the counselling deals with working with life changes.
  • Sometimes during our sessions you will be challenged by another point of view on the situation to promote positive change.
  • Therapy can be about mental health and well-being.
  • Counselling often deals with spiritual and philosophical issues.

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